The struggle is real…

I remember the day I gave birth to my second child, I had to have a c-section as due to my pelvis fracture in a previous accident, I was unable to give birth naturally. As much as I prepared myself for what was about to happen, I felt like the most unprepared mother on earth.  For some reason, probably due to being overwhelmed with the entire pregnancy in the first place, I didn’t realise that for the first day after giving birth, I would not be able to get up or feel the lower part of my body, so trying to nurse my daughter was more than difficult and uncomfortable for me. Then on the second day, it didn’t occur to me that despite everything I went through the day before, I would have to suck it up, get up and get going. I have to take my hat of to all mothers who have given birth – natural, or c-section, what is physically expected of us is beyond anything imaginable.

God has given us this gift of bringing life into the world, but the amount of physical pain, discomfort and stress that goes with it proves that our strength is way more than we ever thought we would ever be able to muster up. Our love and responsibility towards our children far outweighs the amount of pain and agony we go through to have them. And then after all of that, you have to experience the daily judgement from people around you, about whether you are doing things the right way when it comes to your children. There is no right way, there is only “Your Way!” People who have gone through the current stages you are at with your kids are very quick to judge and forget that they were once there. They too, had to make those hard decisions as to whether to stop breast feeding or not being able to breast feed, let certain things slide with their children, whether to feed your child even though they can feed themselves, whether to scold them at that moment of throwing a tantrum in a shopping centre, whether to carry your child despite them being old enough to run & play freely with their friends…its these situations we find ourselves in on a daily basis. Its perfectly fine to do whatever you need to do to get through that moment with your child. Its ok to give them that extra loving or extra cuddling that they need before they say goodbye to you at school, its perfectly ok to help them eat no matter what as long as they are getting food in their bodies. The fact of the matter is that before you know it, they will be all grown up and not need you in that way anymore. So do whatever you need to do for yourself and your children, so that they turn out to be the loving, kind hearted and responsible adults we are trying to raise ♥

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