When I began dating my now husband, I made the concerted decision to ensure that I was being honest at all times when it came to my feelings. I didn’t have that fear of what would he think or how would he feel if I was upfront about what I wanted and needed for the relationship to work. I was equally blessed with an extremely understanding and considerate partner who knew where I was coming from most times and when he didn’t, he would be patient enough to determine which direction I was actually heading in. He was equally loving and appreciative of our now 20 year old son, who was 12 at the time of their first meeting. My son, was very welcoming and affectionate to my new partner and I think he was relieved that I now had a partner to share my life with and that he finally had a wonderful male role model who was extremely supportive of him.
I was honest about how being a mum was my first priority and how I always needed to ensure that my son was secure in our relationship. I was honest about my availability as a partner and equally as a mother. When it came to making serious decisions about our future, I was upfront about the fact that I was not willing to let any outside factors interfere or influence any decisions in our lives as it was not just the 2 of us, but the 3 of us deciding to share our lives together. I have to admit that my husband is truly the best man I will ever know, he has always kept to his word of being the incredible husband and father he promised that he would be. He always gives me a hearing even when I am not being completely rational. He always treats me as his equal and appreciates who I am and where I have come from. He appreciates my experiences and who I have become as a result of those experiences. In life, its extremely rare to find a soul mate who completely gets you, its equally rare to find a man who treats your child as his own. Its rare to find a man who loves so deeply and strives to show me everyday that he loves me beyond anything. My life may not be perfect but its as close to perfection as I could have ever imagined it to be. I am extremely grateful for the blessings bestowed upon me and when I look back at my past life, I now realise that I had to go through all of those dark periods to become who I was meant to be, in order for me to appreciate true love and happiness ❤