Being More…

After reading the deep wisdom shared by Steven Covey’s teaching: Seek first to understand, then to be understood, I thought there is no greater time to post this, than now. As we are in the middle of the festive season, lets all remember that as much as we want to all celebrate and partake in the festivities that come with this time of year, understanding someone’s plight is just as important and worthwhile. Lending an ear or hand to those who need the love, support and understanding is just as appreciated and longed for. During the festive season, there are those that have experienced loss, some that are alone and others that don’t understand what its like to have a family to celebrate with. So in addition to taking a break, celebrating and being merry, lets remember that we can be more to others in need of not only material things, but also much needed love and support.

Enjoy this beautiful story and inspiring wisdom, shared by Steven Covey:

A lovely little girl was holding two apples with both hands. Her mum came in and softly asked her little daughter with a smile: “My sweetie, could you give your mum one of your two apples?”

The girl looked up at her mum for some seconds, then she suddenly took a quick bite on one apple, and then quickly on the other. The mum felt the smile on her face freeze. She tried hard not to reveal her disappointment.

Then the little girl handed one of her bitten apples to her mum, and said: “Mummy, here you are. This is the sweeter one.”

No matter who you are, how experienced you are, and how knowledgeable you think you are, always delay judgments. Give others the privilege to explain themselves. What you see may not be the reality. Never conclude for others.  Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first. For example:

Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are prosperous, but because they value friendship above money.

Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are foolish, but because they understand the concept of responsibility.

Those who apologize first after an argument, do so not because they are wrong, but because they value the people around them.

Those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you anything, but because they see you as a true friend.

Those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do, but because you are in their heart.

It is in that beautiful momentary pause – the suspension of judgment – in which genuine caring and a willingness to trust and believe in someone is given. It is the great leaders’ vulnerability to be open to something more that perceived, heard or felt. It is an offering of respect, a moment of listening to stand in the shoes of another.

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