When someone truly loves you, it’s highly unlikely that they will ever feel threatened by anything about you. Trust & respect are the 2 most vital aspects that should make up the foundation of any relationship. So when I was faced with ongoing accusations by my ex-partner, at first I started believing that I am at fault, that there is actually something wrong with me and with the way I carry myself. I started believing that he is right and I’m the problematic factor in the relationship. I started thinking that I needed to sort myself out in order to save the relationship.
I started becoming a recluse, always looking down as opposed to facing the world head on. I started losing my self worth, as a result my confidence was non-existent. I began feeling abused all over again, the only difference was that this time it was emotional & psychological as opposed to physical. It’s just as damaging and the scars don’t go away as easily, in fact it took longer for me. Eventually after chatting to a psychologist, I began realising that it wasn’t me and never was. I began fighting back, standing up for myself, maintaining my argument and confidence. I eventually walked away from that toxic relationship, not without many back & forths…but I did garner the strength and close that chapter of my life. I learnt many lessons throughout that relationship, not all bad. The biggest learning curve for me was realising my strength & resilience. No matter how many times someone may try to break me, I have the strength to stand up and know who I am.
